Habit #1 - BE CURIOUS, not critical
Navigating Unmet Expectations
Course Description
We each turn up to a relationship with a certain set of expectations - some of which we’re conscious of, and some we have no idea about. Together, they create an experience of surprise and sense-making in the routine of daily lives together. Life is easy where the expectations are shared. The challenges come when the expectations are different and real problems can surface when unmet expectations are around issues that are “big deals” for us – fundamental issues for one partner or both.
In this course, we look at expectations and how to build more common ground in a relationship. Specifically, we look at:
- WHY so often we don’t see eye-to-eye on things, and how that can lead to feelings of frustration, stagnation or even starvation in our relationship.
- WHAT’s really going on - THREE things you need to know about your partner to help manage your own expectations better and also to allow you to appreciate why your partner’s expectations are likely to be different from yours.
- A simple yet powerful model to help you understand personalities and how they can rub up against each other.
- TWO key principles to adopt to help you navigate your way through different expectations and find a way forward on the ones that are important to both of you and the health of the relationship.
Taking the time to build your understanding in this area will give you a new level of care and empathy because you are able to inspect your own expectations, articulate the ones important to you and understand your partner’s drivers as well. It also means you can really have each other’s back because you know the things that will create frustrations and how to lift them out of that.
Sign up today… and look forward to a new world of greater understanding and less stress as you learn to play to your respective strengths and cut each other some slack where you approach things differently!
Your Co-Presenters Dr. Andrea & Jonathan Taylor-Cummings
Andrea and Jon are the co-Founders and Co-CEOs of 4 Habits Consulting and Founding Trustees of the UK registered charity, Soulmates Academy Foundation.
Being city professionals and entrepreneurs themselves, Andrea and Jon have first-hand experience of the inevitable strain on relationships caused by high stress careers, living and working together, and juggling the responsibilities of family and work in an attempt to find a sustainable balance. The 4 Habits are a culmination of their work in relationship education over 25+ years, drawing from principles in psychology, management theory and scientific research. Initially alongside their professional city careers, and now as their full time mission, they help people change their behaviours from habits that damage relationships to habits that strengthen them, on purpose.
Andrea & Jon are recognised authorities on the subject of relationship education, with numerous public speaking engagements, multiple TV, Radio and Podcast appearances around the world, a successful TEDx Talk (3M+ Views) and a book on The 4 Habits of ALL successful relationships.
In April 2023 they celebrated 30 years of marriage. They have 2 grown children… who still keep them totally accountable on all the relationship advice they give!
Being city professionals and entrepreneurs themselves, Andrea and Jon have first-hand experience of the inevitable strain on relationships caused by high stress careers, living and working together, and juggling the responsibilities of family and work in an attempt to find a sustainable balance. The 4 Habits are a culmination of their work in relationship education over 25+ years, drawing from principles in psychology, management theory and scientific research. Initially alongside their professional city careers, and now as their full time mission, they help people change their behaviours from habits that damage relationships to habits that strengthen them, on purpose.
Andrea & Jon are recognised authorities on the subject of relationship education, with numerous public speaking engagements, multiple TV, Radio and Podcast appearances around the world, a successful TEDx Talk (3M+ Views) and a book on The 4 Habits of ALL successful relationships.
In April 2023 they celebrated 30 years of marriage. They have 2 grown children… who still keep them totally accountable on all the relationship advice they give!
Course curriculum
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Welcome
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Getting in the right Mindset
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Partners GO FREE - Send us details here for separate login, if required
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Intro
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2 key ingredients to help you better manage expectations in your relationship
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Making sense of how we're feeling in your relationship & what to do to improve satisfaction
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Section 1 - Check Your Understanding
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Intro
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How they THINK & process information
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What makes them FEEL satisfied in the relationship
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How they'e likely to BEHAVE (especially under stress!)
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Section 2 - Check Your Understanding
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Intro
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Now I finally 'get it!' - LIONS & OTTERS
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Now I finally 'get it!' - GOLDEN RETRIEVERS & BEAVERS
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Just how compatible are we all?
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Section 3 - Check Your Understanding
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Intro
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Case Study
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2 Key Principles
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Section 4 - Check Your Understanding
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Exercises - Overview
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Exercise 1 - Make a note of how you each tend to Think, Feel & Behave
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Intimacy Needs Assessment Tool
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Exercise 2 - Clarify your own expectations
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Exercise 3 - Get to understand your partner's expectations
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Exercise 4 - Agree your way forward as a couple
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About this course
- $49.00
- 29 lessons
- 2 hours of video content
Reviews
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This course was worth the time! It's amazing how the simplest misunderstandings can create humongous issues. Learning about personality types and expectation...
Read MoreThis course was worth the time! It's amazing how the simplest misunderstandings can create humongous issues. Learning about personality types and expectations has clarified so much and opened up my eyes to a new world of thinking, understanding, and responding. I now have a better understanding and am more informed on the best way to work on me. Take the course, it will not only enhance your marital relationship, but it will impact all other relationships in your life!
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The text is very full and in depth and introduced me to a way a looking at things that I just had not thought of. This new way of looking at things and devel...
Read MoreThe text is very full and in depth and introduced me to a way a looking at things that I just had not thought of. This new way of looking at things and developing awareness in itself can help avoid conflict too quickly as you try to work out what something really is, rather than drawing a conclusion too quickly. I have found the course helpful and that, as a single woman!
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